I’m an introvert & that’s cool by me. We live in a world dominated by extrovert thinking, it’s what people are encouraged to be when they’re looking for work, at interviews, when you’re out with friends. I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with being an extrovert. Introvert/extrovert just means you have a different way of connecting to your soul. Extroverts are more entertaining when it comes to the stage, & their outward energy makes them fun to be with & they also help to get things done. However all this pressure to be charismatic, overly positive & dynamic to succeed in life, makes introverts feel like they’re inadequate or that there’s something wrong with them if they can’t fit in.
The truth is being an introvert is cool too. You only feel like you don’t fit in, because you, & to an extent society, makes it hard for you to accept the way you are. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert. You may not be the life & soul of the party, able to charm your way to the top or make zillions of friends, but you have other gifts that are just as valuable.
Introverts tend to be more thoughtful people, which often means they’re more considerate of others & their thoughts & feelings. Introverts tend to be more contemplative, able to look at things deeper, not just on a superficial level, they make good friends, & the friendships they do have tend to be close & meaningful. Through their way of thinking, they can get to the heart of the problem, they are perceptive & often have good foresight. Introverts are able to plan in advance, predict what might happen in the future & take action in preparation for it. They can be good at problem solving, good at things like writing, & can be very creative people. They can also be good at science, Albert Einstein was an introvert. These are all valuable qualities in society. You may not impress an interviewer with your quietness, but that interviewer is enjoying much of the comforts/technological advances in their life because of introverts.
One thing I’ve learnt somewhat embarrassingly/painfully over the years, especially in my youth, is don’t try to be an extrovert if you’re an introvert. It causes you to lose touch with who you really are, which can lead to a painful inner crisis & a lack of self worth.
There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert, the world would be seriously dull & lacking if we were all the same. It doesn’t matter if you are good at social situations or not, you’re just as valuable as anyone else. Accept whatever you are & don’t try & force yourself to be something you’re not, just to give yourself the illusion of fitting in. It will make you feel lost, alone & unhappy. It’s like trying to fit into clothes that are too tight or loose.
You fit into society fine as an introvert, some people might perceive this as boring, but so what? Does this make you any less than them? If society has a problem with you, it’s cause they haven’t caught up with you inwardly yet. As an introvert you just have a slower pace outwardly, but a faster pace internally. You need more personal space to think things through than extroverts do. You need to respect that about yourself, & gently help others who don’t understand to respect it too. If you go silent whilst socializing, it’s not cause there’s something wrong with you, it’s cause you are being thoughtful. Introverts make good listeners, & when they do speak they can often bring something valuable to a discussion, a way of looking at things from a different angle. Which is priceless.
Most people are a mix of introvert/extrovert, I think I’m about 80% introvert 20% extrovert. Everyone’s different, & that’s alright. So don’t be made to feel inadequate by celebrities, adverts, TV & all the marketing hype & images of what someone else thinks is the ideal human in the media. If it’s not you, that’s cool. Just got to accept who you are & don’t beat yourself up or try to be something you’re not.
Although this note bigs up being an introvert; a world composed solely of introverts would be just as freaky as one composed solely of extroverts. Society needs both, just be proud of whichever one you are, & don’t try to put yourself into a mould you’re not comfortable with.
Be yourself & be cool with it.